My daughter, my youngest, was 12 years old, 19 years into the marriage. I was looking at her one day and thought: if she believes this is the way a husband is, and if she grows up and marries someone like her father, I will die.
A counselor said: why is it not ok for her, but it’s ok for you?
That was the moment for me. We are 13 years post divorce, and she is married to a man who cherishes her. And I also know what that feels like now. It’s not ok for any of us.
It’s important to note that even as the term coercive control has started to make its way into family courts, into family court legislature, it is still not understood or even believed.
Worse—no matter what many protective parents do to educate the court, it’s the abusers to USE coercive control to CONVINCE the family court that the survivor is the narcissistic abuser!
So important to go into family court knowing and being ready for that.
My daughter, my youngest, was 12 years old, 19 years into the marriage. I was looking at her one day and thought: if she believes this is the way a husband is, and if she grows up and marries someone like her father, I will die.
A counselor said: why is it not ok for her, but it’s ok for you?
That was the moment for me. We are 13 years post divorce, and she is married to a man who cherishes her. And I also know what that feels like now. It’s not ok for any of us.
It’s important to note that even as the term coercive control has started to make its way into family courts, into family court legislature, it is still not understood or even believed.
Worse—no matter what many protective parents do to educate the court, it’s the abusers to USE coercive control to CONVINCE the family court that the survivor is the narcissistic abuser!
So important to go into family court knowing and being ready for that.