Double standards are a common feature of abusive relationships, fostering a one-sided power dynamic where the abuser enforces contradictory and unfair rules to maintain control.
Double standards especially relating to money. While I have access to debit card for household expenses, atm withdrawal and even the regular expenses are routinely questioned. I am pretty much petrified about my financial future but I have been living on so little funds, how different can it be? I am afraid to tempt fate with that question but I was raised by a single mum to be frugal so I think I can do it.
Unfortunately, I can relate to much of this. "His money was his money, but my money was our money" has got to be one of the most egregious. I'm glad I'm free now, but the post separation abuse is still mind blowingly full of gaslighting and reality warping. I'm still not sure what's real.
Double standards especially relating to money. While I have access to debit card for household expenses, atm withdrawal and even the regular expenses are routinely questioned. I am pretty much petrified about my financial future but I have been living on so little funds, how different can it be? I am afraid to tempt fate with that question but I was raised by a single mum to be frugal so I think I can do it.
Unfortunately, I can relate to much of this. "His money was his money, but my money was our money" has got to be one of the most egregious. I'm glad I'm free now, but the post separation abuse is still mind blowingly full of gaslighting and reality warping. I'm still not sure what's real.
What happens when both people in the relationship feel this way ?
This is what has me so damn confused. He swears this applies to me when I swear it applies to him.