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Christina's avatar

Wow... this is one of the most direct, comprehensive articles I've read, it really clarified my own misperceptions that I see in the past led to false hope. It's not just the alcohol addiction because at work, he acted different. It's not just learning to manage his anger, because as you mention if that were the root problem, it would be with everyone, in all situations but it isn't. He's choosing to abuse and to manipulate where it serves his best interest and where he sees the ability to do so via control and a lack of firm boundaries - mic drop moment in reading this. Thank you!

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Fernanda Martinez's avatar

Wow! This really puts things in such a different light for me and this is exactly how my ex was with me and still is in so many ways. He absolutely hates that he no longer can exert any sort of control over me. He is so damn righteous even when it is clear as day that he is in the wrong. I'm so glad I am out of that marriage.

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